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Originally Posted by Gus1234U
my best solution is to focus on the 'solution' rather than the 'problem',,
i never know when i will run into some situation that goads me... but i do know what to do about it: disengage IMMEDIATELY.
there are other skills,, mindful breathing, counting, reading; "distract, defer, delay", are my mantras.
as i practice my skillful responses more and more, they are becoming quicker and more effective. acceptance and not resistance seems to be a key component: i am like this, they are like that, here's what to do ~
best wishes~!
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I agree and disengaging is what i stopped being able to do getting thread banned everywhere (other site) and that should have been a clue as i was able to before and i did notice it but ignored it.
Check, wont do that again!
Yes, mindfulness/DBT/breathing all good. I have a DBT workbook but sort of have a mind block. Even if i skip over where i am stuck, I cant seem to comprehend what Im reading. So off to another book for the moment I think and then come back to it later.