Please don't feel embarrassed. I have incidents like that from my past as well, and was terribly hurt by one ex-T who reeeally downplayed it. But it turns out that those incidents say a lot about me, and how I feel I can't say no, and the feeling of shame that rides along. It's hard to say what the kid's intentions were, and you'll never really know, so I would concentrate less on the labelling of the situation, and more how it made you feel. (hugs)