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Originally Posted by unaluna
Extremely high! Difference is, people (mostly family but also others) just think im dumb, not clever 
Velcro et al: so whats the difference between being left in the nicu and being at home with your caretaker ignoring you until you learn to stop crying? The effect is the same; "logic" doesnt factor into it. I think you can still learn to connect  |
I know logic doesn't come into play, but that's all I have! Plus, don't you think 18 years of parenting sort of outweigh 4 months in the NICU? I told my T that while I don't remember much of my childhood, from what I do remember is that I never went to either of my parents when upset (this is me being older, after 10ish or so-don't remember much before then). She said that because my attachment was disrupted, I probably didn't think I could trust them, but that seems a bit outrageous that those sort of things can be cemented in the brain so early on.
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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
About being "good enough" for therapy - if I'm going to invest the time and money, I think pretty much anything is good enough to be in therapy for.
Velcro, I think there is research to suggest that being deprived of touch as a child, or having neglectful parents, alters one's brain in ways that affect attachment style. I don't see it as lame if you were in the NICU for that long.
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I know, but I find it so hard to believe: