I'm struggling with intense maternal transference for my therapist. I'm sorry for what you're going through, I totally understand. I don't think the acts of caring from your therapist are a bad thing. To maintain the connection, I listen to the recordings of my sessions. But it's often not enough. I try to distract myself then. I agree with Argonautomobile: the more you develop your own life, your outside life, the less painful the attachment will become.