My long time T retired in November, so I tried starting with a new T. A few weeks in, a friend of mine made an unwanted move on me. (He is a man and I am an out lesbian). I told the new T, and she tried to ask what I could have done differently or how I could have prevented the situation. My answer: NOTHING. If someone does something without your consent, it is NOT your fault. I never went back to that T. I am so sorry this happened to you and that your T made things worse. It is NOT empowering to ask the victim what they could do differently; that is victim blaming. T's need to stop trying to use that outdated and ineffective method and support their clients.