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Originally Posted by Ruari
I don't think older males have it so bad, actually. Check out Hugh Hefner. 
For real, though, the man I was talking to for a bit is 7 years older than me (he's 44). When he was 39, he was in a long term relationship with a pretty girl 10 years his junior. I mean, yeah, he was fit, active, and looked really good...even with the bald head and salt and pepper goatee. But he was still with a much younger woman (and has also been with women his own age). That's the example which readily comes to mind, but the point is that if you're taking care of yourself, age is just a number.
I know it seems scary, and I didn't love the idea of reaching my 30's, but it isn't so bad. And I probably wouldn't go back to my 20's for anything; I had a lot of fun at times but overall, they were too tumultuous. |
Here is the thing though. Why would it be so unfathomable that a physically fit 39 year old guy could get a 29 year old woman? If it was a physically fit 39 year old woman, nobody would doubt for a second that 29 year old guys and even 19 year old guys would go for her. People seem to assume that a guy's age, regardless of what he looks like, makes him undesirable to younger women. And this is something that concerns me. It tells me that no matter how much I take care of myself(work out, groom myself, dress fashionably, etc.), I will still be seen as less desirable because of my age. Meanwhile, nice looking 30something women are still considered every bit as attractive as younger women. So what then, will women my own age be out of my league too when I am over 30?
If someone is attractive, they are attractive to people in general, not just people past a certain age. So when women in their 30s and older comment that "no young woman would be interested in a 30something man, they want hot guys their own age", what they are really saying is that they themselves find men over 30(their own age) undesirable.