Thanks for this . I have a difficult time wanting things from my T - some things she has allowed in the past, like touch and hugging my stuffed animal, but after she saw I "needed" these things to feel better, she took them away. She apparently saw I wasn't "internalizing" the love, only wanting more (she didn't offer them for a long period of time, so perhaps that internalizing would have come eventually). I have been struggling with this idea of "needing" things from my T because I am realizing she will not fulfill those needs - according to her, in order for me to heal, I need to figure out how to satisfy my needs for myself. This has been something I am really struggling with because I see others who have Ts that offer touch and other kinds of support because they need it, but my T doesn't give these things to me for that very same reason. I think sometimes I wish I wasn't so attached to her because I am really only attached to the things she took away. It is all very painful and I feel my connection to her is dying because I don't have much to hold onto anymore. She says she still cares, but she doesn't offer the same support she used to.