I've been in a similar situation - my wife was bipolar and I had anxiety and depression. It's so hard... I definitely remember how my symptoms made her symptoms worse, which made my symptoms worse, etc, etc. What can you do to break that cycle?

I think one of the most important things is to make sure your world is never reduced to just you and your husband. If it is that feedback loop becomes too powerful. Anything that breaks the loop helps. Can you do anything at all for yourself? Even if it's just a hot bath or a walk, please do something every day to take care of yourself.

Along similar lines staying in contact with people outside the loop is really important. Talk therapy can be so helpful. And I agree that support groups can make a huge difference. There are lots of resources out there for you and your husband. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America and the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance both have websites that let you search for nearby groups.

To find a therapist and get support by phone try calling a support hotline (like 800-273-TALK). Or if you prefer to text you can try the Crisis Text Line by texting Start to 741-741.

I hope this helps. Stay strong.