I dunno, divine.
Crazyman's late father used pick on him something fierce about being "girly" and "A Big Sissy!!" bc he (my fiancé) wore his feelings on his sleeves, collars, pantlegs, and all over his face. ( lololl he still does. ) To make it worse, his older brother (there are only 2 kids in his fam) gave him holy hades and made fun of him for the same reasons. "Mama's boy", blah blah etc. In the chunk of the Midwest where he was born & raised, and in his very white-bread social strata, that's the expectation still.

OTOH I was raised in the South by a southern Mama, even during the time we lived in the Midwest I was very much held to the cultural mores Mother expected.
Now Crazyman and I laugh about it periodically -- but he, especially, suffered for his temder feelings. And he is very, very, Very physical: I am not.

It works, but it has its insanity quotient too.

fwiw,

Chyia, le sigh