I found myself. Long ago. Heard it. But thanks.

Look, I'm not asking for advice on what to do to find a relationship. Why do people focus on that, and toss "Look for red flags, find yourself, learn how to be alone.." and all of that?

I like myself. I've found myself. I know how to be alone. I am pretty damned good at it.

I'm hurt. I'm lonely. I can still be awesome at being alone, love myself, have found myself, and still flipping be allowed to feel this way and be disappointed to boot. Why do people here think the two are exclusive? That you can't possibly be good at being alone if you're disappointed, lonely, and hurt sometimes? If I didn't feel the full range of human emotions (including anger), then I wouldn't be very healthy.

That's the only reason I posted tonight: I'm sad.

PS Sorry, I'm also very angry tonight; I've held anger in about a lot of things for a while because I keep getting told from multiple sources that I shouldn't be angry about things (totally unrelated to this post). Baloney. Emotions aren't bad, just how you express them.