I identify with your attachment issues too. I've had 5 Ts but my current one is the first to actually try to help me work through the attachment. She has encouraged me to be close to her and has told me how much she cares about me, even using the word "love." She has let me hold her hand in the session as a means of feeling the connection out if the session. Everything she does helps keep the connection between us.

I have seen my T for 6 years. It has taken a long time to internalize her caring and to not experience a continual longing in between sessions. I never thought I would get to that point. It's been very gradual. I think her letting me email, and answering my emails has helped a lot. She likes when.I send photos of my family and of my artwork. We have a "real relationship", she says, even though it's a professional one with limits.

I still get jealous of my T's other other clients but not as much as I used to. She seems to have enough love for all of us. If I have to think of what is most helpful in working with my attachment issues, it's that T has accepted me and never made fun of my feelings for her. She's always encouraged me to "accept my parts" and have compassion for them.