Lady Dragus --

> First off talking about a Fanstay, is very hard for some woeman, when they were growing up, even me,
> my paretns never talked about "sex" it was just something that went along with marriage, but in today's
> society, men and weoman need much more than that to make a marrieage work..

Right. I mean they are only fantasies, stuff that may end up not happening anyway but pleasing to think about. People have them. But of course marriage does not work on fantasies alone. In fact a marriage may not even need fantasies. A marriage does need communication to bind together.

> something else you might look into, is there anything that is causing you or her "Undue" stress, bills ect...
> That might make the other not want the other..

My sister suggested that possibility It's possible that her parents are forcing her to take a path choosen by them for her to conform to. Such as working at a place where she does not want to work at. It's stressing her, but her parents are re-inforcing her that it's the best place. For example, yesterday her father clipped out a newspaper article about how much profit the store (I'm keeping that confidential, but it's a national chain) has made in the past year. It's as if they don't want to lose control of her. She is their youngest daughter, of course. Anyway, that could be causing some stress there. But I don't know. There could be more to it.

> I know it will be hard to "cut off" all online sex stuff, but for your marriages sake I would try very very
> hard.

For the past half week, we talked a lot more about other stuff (such as analying each other's dreams and cooking) and less about sex. If I leave it at that and just chop sex from the equation completely...I'll work on that.