I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish that I had read the postings from the Divorce 101 Facebook Group when I was going through divorce- if you have Facebook- it's a great group to be a part of. I tried to do DivorceCares at a local church, but it was very hard for me to open up to strangers.
I'm glad that you're consulting a lawyer. The first year post divorce was the hardest year of my life- I would never wish the experience on anyone. However, it has allowed me to grow in ways that I didn't imagine. Keep us posted on how you're feeling- it's one of the hardest losses you'll experience.