One thing that I have done in the past is to write up a little list of important experiences and left it with my T - I did it because I kind of expect people to forget things and to not realize the importance of certain experiences to me, especially in the early days of getting to know each other. I'm not sure if that would make you feel any better, but perhaps it would help with the practical issue of him not understanding the importance of some things in your life or not recalling those things you talked about early on?