I currently have some maternal transference with my T and some paternal (at times erotic) transference with my marriage counselor. I've been in therapy before, but haven't had any transference, though I think I had it for a male high school teacher.
I generally had (and have) a good relationship with my parents, but they didn't meet all my emotional needs (particularly related to my OCD, anxiety, and depression). I've also felt some things missing in my relationship with my H (and with some exes), though that's getting better through marriage counseling. I think the maternal/paternal stuff is related to my parents, and the erotic maybe a bit more with my marriage/past romantic relationships. Incidentally, I initially had more negative transference with my T, because I expected her to react the way my mom would to certain things (she's also my mom's age, while MC is 12 years older than me). But as we worked together more, I realized she wasn't my mom, and it became more of a positive maternal transference (and there seems to be some countertransference on her end, too). The paternal stuff with MC was/is all positive, like I was/am looking at him as some ideal father (and, at times, romantic partner). Though everything with him hasn't been positive, as there have been a few times when we had misunderstandings, and it was like my heart was breaking because it wasn't just about current stuff, but childhood stuff too.
Hope that helps somewhat!
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