Your husband needs to look for some work...any work. He might be feeling depressed but his actions are totally unacceptable.

Mind you, I stayed in a bad marriage for 33 years but if it were me, I wouldn't cook for him, only the kids & they would be doing the cleanup & dishes as thanks for the meal they got.

I can understand depression after I lost my engineering career when aerospace in Ca crashed. I tried to find new work but nothing was available & no one wanted to hire someone so overqualified. I stayed home & did housework until I started to feel taken advantage of then I quit doing everything. Financially trapped in the marriage at that point because I hadn't gotten out when I could.

When we both worked, we would both put things where they belonged when we got home & buth organize for our cleaning lady. When I wasn't able to work, he would just dump things down & EXPECT ME to pick up after him. It made me hate him more than I already did. As long as you didn't do something like that to make him feel taken for granted then HE'S just being a JERK. Know that getting even never solves anything but it sure feels good when you are being treated the way he's treating you.

They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach....maybe no food is a way of getting to his brain also?