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Originally Posted by artemis-within
That's what my t would say too, to that idea. At least, I'm pretty sure she would, because recently I noticed the clock that our time was up and I said so, and I said "I don't want to make you late for anything" as I got up to leave, and she said something like "What, I don't have any responsibility here?" Of course that was the day that I practically knocked her down to get OUT of there I was in such a hurry because of uncomfortable feelings, but that's besides the point.  |
Yup. Mine is big on taking personal responsibility for your own emotions. He modeled that in his own interactions with me.
It's actually a bit of a running joke in our house since we've all had session with our therapist at one point or another and we've all clued into this aspect of his approach to handling our own emotions.
It actually makes sense though, and realizing that what comes along with taking responsibility for our own emotions is the added bonus that we don't have to take care of other people's emotions makes for a healthy household. It doesn't mean we aren't respectful and caring and decently human toward each other, but it does mean that if we are reacting overly strongly to something going on, we have the responsibility to figure out what is going on within us and to communicate what we need clearly rather than playing the blame game on each other. Certainly encourages many more "I feel" statements instead of "you made me" statements.