As mentioned above, there does not seem to be a way around this.


I would have suggested a dating site for folks waiting for marriage, but that would mean your dating pool is made up of religious girls, and then you'd be "unequally yolked" and have a new set of problems.


Logically for me its easy, learn to like love and accept the person as more than their past.


Because each of us has one, and is more than our past.


Imagine if you found a non religious waiting for marriage virgin girl with a strong aversion to obesity... Like she finds the very thought as disgusting as you find a non virgin....


Now imagine she found out you used to weigh alot more and she can't get this disgusting image out of her mind and breaks up with you....


Wouldn't you want to be acknowledged and accepted as more than the guy who used to weigh too much?


But some people aren't so accepting. So I don't have any sound advice.


Alot can be fixed by adjusting our perceptions, but not everyone is willing or able to.