I wish I could but unfortunately, therapy ended without me having the chance. I wish I could go back to work on this and find closure but then I worry that because my T didn't do things "conventionally" (as in she would give hugs), perhaps that approach is actually harmful to me and I should see someone who is a "blank screen"? Personally, I hate such therapists but there tends to be a lot of scrutiny for therapists who are more human in their approach so I wonder if there is a reason for that. Perhaps it does do damage to clients like myself, I don't know. It certainly hurts when the therapy is over and you feel that the bond you built up is taken away. It's almost reenacting the traumas that perhaps led to insecure attachments in the first place.

So are you saying transference is real?