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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Hugs...Definitely tell her you were upset by what she said. Maybe she said the posture thing because she thought it would be a quick way to improve how you look in a picture? Between that and the weight loss thing, it sounds like she's trying to give you advice/tell you what to do rather than just listen. Or talk about where those feelings of being ugly are coming from (and what that means). So I would open by saying that you were upset by what she said last time, that it's not helpful for you to hear suggestions about weight loss/posture/etc. And then maybe try to figure out what you do want to talk about and what would help you?
Also, I forget whether the no-e-mailing for a week thing was your idea or hers. But definitely talk about its effect on you, too. Could you maybe still e-mail her, but just less often?
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LT, thanks very much for answering. I was starting to wonder if everyone put me on ignore because I did not get even one response to my thread " maybe it was love"! I didn't ask any question so maybe that's the reason. I noticed that I can handle "no responses" even though that never happened to me ever before. But in this thread I did want some help.
I also think T gave me too much advice last week. It may help or backfire. I will probably start out sitting up very straight! I know what I want. The truth from her about how I look so I can will not be confused anymore. Then to talk about my Mom and that anatomy stuff.
It would never be my idea not to email! She wanted to see if I could journal or post here or talk to a friend instead of emailing her right after my session to process it. I told her no but thought I would try. I have to ask if other emailing is okay. She still says email is fine, but our goal is not to have to do it, at least the processing part. I have to leave for my appointment in about 15 minutes and am getting super scared!!!