My ex told me over and over again that his therapist thought I was everything-negative-fill-in-the-blanks-under-the-sun. That was, until he requested I go in to see him. It was no great leap to see that my ex had been less than truthful and omitted the entire story to his therapist. After a brief talk to me, the therapist turned to my ex and basically called him a lying idiot before asking me to leave the room. It is my guess that all my husband had wanted was someone to validate his cruel behaviour; that he wasn't interested in change or responsibility at all.