That sounds like a good parameter to leave!

We are both studying and I work part-time so money is on my part but he cares more for the child and is an excellent cook. We try to splitt housework fair (and because we know we suck in doing so we started to write our work down and talk about how we feel about it)

But of course it's stressing and mundane like every coparenting of a two year old child. But it gets better and we have an agreement were we're allowed to just send the other person away with child if we feel it's to much (did happen about..3 times?) without questions beeing asked in that moment.

@divine1966 I thought this, too. I mean, I also felt a long time of settlement and being calm and feeling home.
But now I also sometimes wanna run.

Thanks for your input everybody!