Bummy, Hi and Welcome!

I'm sorry for what your family is going thru. It would seem that your hubby has suffered a deep loss to him and a crush to his career and possibly even his self-esteem. Many men and women don't adjust well to the military, do their 3-5 and get out. I'm the daughter of a 23 yr career marine. He was hooked his first tour. It sounds like your hubby was as well. Being that, he put all of his future hopes and dreams into his new life and thoughts for his family and his career...then BOOM. That's a very difficult blow and I'm sure he's greiving and very unsure of himself. Knowing that doesn't make it easier on you or your daughter, though. I fear that the longer he stays feeling this way, the harder it's going to be for him. I wish you all well there.

As far as calling the recruiter, I'm not sure that he could be much help to you. Although, recruiters do know alot of the options out there. One thing you might think about...calling the local Veteran's Administration. They might be able to tell you EXACTLY what options your husband and even you have for getting him and yourself some help. You may have to try a few different departments, but they're usually pretty knowledgeable and may recommend something for the two of you.

It seems as though your husband has gone into a depression and is greiving. He may come out of this on his own when he's finished greving...He may not. Was your husband prone to depression before this? The answer might be a clue to you as to if this may or may not be lasting.

If I find out about any other resourses, I'll let you know. Again, I wish you well. And, discharge or no, I'm so proud and want to thank you and your husband for the sacrifices you did make and the more that you were willing to make.

Be safe,

Kimmydawn