My last T would get angry for me a lot. It was validating in the beginning and later I was annoyed by it more than I was helped. I felt that he would've helped me much better if he worked with me on my reactions to what other people did as opposed to being angry for me. I would've much preferred for him to help me develop enough confidence in myself not to let others get under my skin. We have little control over other people's behavior anyway, so it's more productive to work on managing our emotions about their behavior than spending time and energy on *****ing about who did what to us, especially in therapy. That is not to say that anger, pain and sadness shouldn't be validated. Of course, they should. But focusing on the wrongdoings of others all the time is futile as it does very little for our healing and improving the quality of our lives.

So yeah, at some point, when my T would get angry for me once again, I told him that I'd rather understand my own buttons that are being pushed as opposed to understanding why So-and-So did this or that and how dare they. He never satisfied my request.