I did talk to a counselor/therapist because I wanted to help understand BP and what can I do to help my husband while he is going through all of this. At that time, my husband did things he had never done in the 14 years I had known him. He drank so much he was out of control. He was super paranoid and had a gun with him. He would have it by the bed with us because he felt he had people after him. He trusted no one. Among other things I told my therapist, he recommended I take our children and leave my husband. I was upset because I wanted to try and help my husband, not leave him. What about our vows, in sickness and in health? For many years, my husband carried the financial burden in our household. i guess I owed it to him to stick it out and help. But, he seems to be getting better and yet he is more distant than ever towards me. I don't understand this. I have stuck through some hard times. Why is he distancing himself from me, the one that has been there the whole time? But, he gets more satisfaction out of talking to random women on the internet and boosting his ego.
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Originally Posted by eskielover
Might be good to find a marriage counselor. I used my own psychologist we both went to together & apart but he was useless.
There is no excuse for joking around. Sometimes ultimatums work sometimes they backfire but when nothing else works sometimes we rely on threats...I suggest marriage counseling first.
I fought with my H from the time we were married. Couldn't figure out his issues until i left after 33 years. You are dealing with BP I was dealing with a H who was ASD (autism spectrum disorder). It is a struggle & I understand your frustration.
Being that I tend to confront & if that doesn't work, his laundry would never get done & he would be cooking & cleaning up his own dishes. Yep, sounds passive aggressive but when they don't want to listen, I call it consequences.
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