I am trying to look out for you, I can be very abrasive at times, so I'm extra glad that you're able to recognize that and not misconstrue my reason for posting.


Like I said, if you find her behavior acceptable, then that's ok, but remain realistic, keep a healthy perspective. Not a pie in the sky one.


She's not some ethereal superwoman with a special power over diapers.


She consistently reels you in and then promptly spits you out.


Make no mistake that this is emotional / psychological abuse.


At least when I was abused it was obvious, the blows were physical, the ones you're receiving are metaphysical and either you just can't see it, or won't.


But that's your path to walk, not mine, I've done my best to shine some light on your path. My hands are tied if you keep switching it off again.


I was very unwell when my bf and I got together.. I was a hot mess actually. A murdered brother, a dead father, a MI dx or two and an abusive stalker ex....


So at times I behaved very badly, especially toward him.


But guess what?


My plate of shyt didn't justify me treating him like dirt, and I didn't even do it on purpose. It was a host of maladaptive thinking and coping mechanisms all playing out in some chaotic symphony.


If I didn't get help and work on myself,, I wouldn't have a relationship right now. Because my bf deserves better than to pay for my painful past.


I guess all I'm trying to say is, call a spade a spade, and in that very same breath, value yourself.


That way its very hard to go wrong and get caught up and distracted by pretty adjectives.