I just texted him that he hurt me deeply and asked him why would he think such a thing, and he wrote, "Don't ask me for the answers I only know the problems."

And he wrote again, "And I have enough trouble with the idea of a mentally ill person raising a child nevermind a traumatized and emotionally unstable foster/adopted child."

I do not how to respond at all. I am lost here.

But thank you guys for the responses... I am glad you guys managed to find love and have wonderful children despite mental illness.