Thanks for the replies.

I have to say again. I appreciated the sentiment she was trying to get across. I am someone who has a problem getting in touch with my anger. I should be angry but it's hard to carry anger for long when you living with the person who continues to hurt you. It gets exhausting.

I agree with the idea that just reporting all the stuff that happened isn't always helpful but I think in my case I need to "report" it all, because she's the only one I feel like I can say this too. I haven't had the nerve to talk to my friends or family about it all yet. Hence the depression and shame, etc. So I go, and I report, so I know it's real, it happened, and it's not right. She's my only witness to this pain. That is something I need to work on changing.

So yeah, I think it felt good to hear T get angry on my behalf. I can't think of anyone else in my life that would express that for me and I guess I need it, for this step anyway.

In the meantime I have to work hard on loving me. Taking care of myself and getting in touch with my own loves and passions, etc.