This is going to sound harsh, and I apologize for that but I'm not sure how to be more gentle.

The person you refer to in your threads as a friend is not a friend. It sounds like she does not consider you in any way a friend and is trying to be more polite and subtle in rejecting you.

Which you don't seem to get. Your reactions to things make you sound very...clingy... Even sorta potentially stalkerish (do keep in mind I ONLY have these threads to go on!) and a little bit obsessive.

Whoever it is talking to your pastor may be feeling too uncomfortable to talk to you directly. Whoever it was wasn't "talking crap" about you behind your back - they stated to him the way that you do in fact react! They are going through your pastor most likely in an attempt to help you, instead of talking directly where you will get even more upset.

I guess you will find out tomorrow!