Sounds like your wife could use private therapy of her own on top of couples. From your explanation of the problems going on in your marriage, honest communication from her is lacking.

Don't get me wrong....I left a bad marriage feeling many of the things you described....but I left for my well being, not to chase illusive passionate love. I understand how serious differences tear apart a relationship or in my case it never was there to build on in the first place & I saw it but didn't recognize what I was seeing & he never grew up or became responsible. For me it was like I stayed married to that immature 21 year old who became more like a child as the years went by.

The thing is, when you leave a marriage, it's important to understand all the serious reasons why it failed if you ever have the desire to get married again & have a meaningful relationship rather than living from one fling to another continually in search of that passionate love. It's taken me 9 years after leaving to truly understand all that was involved in the failure of my marriage. I was truly tired of cleaning up the messes he made in our life & the inability to communicate & the immaturity on his part that I finally realized could never change & I couldn't go on tolerating.

The more you post here the more the REAL picture of your marriage problems are coming out & the real issues tha need to be dealt with