It seems really unhealthy and troublesome to attach to guys you're talking to on the Internet so quickly. You have NO CLUE who these men are, and vice versa. I really would not put much energy into anyone until you have met in person and gone on at least a few dates (and NEVER invite a stanger into your home!) For all you know, these men could be criminals looking to hurt you. You need to stay safe, both physically and emotionally. Have you ever been in a relationship before? I would not consider myself to be dating someone until at least a month of dating, seeing each other regularly. Are there other relationships (friends/family) you can focus on, so you are not over-investing in random men on the internet? it might be really helpful to talk to friends who have been in relationships before or to read some books on relationships in order to get a better idea of what a relationship entails. Talking to someone, or calling someone, or emailing someone isn't a relationship. Most of the people you communicate with online will never follow through. Many of them are probably not who they say they are. When I have done online dating, I probably ended up going on an actual date with 5% of the people I communicated with. Very, very slim. To invest any emotional energy whatsoever in someone until you have met in person is unwise and will probably lead to hurt feelings. Just don't take people seriously until you've met and both demonstrated interest in meeting again. And ONLY meet in public places, and make sure someone you trust knows where you are going! Be safe!