Thanks Dexter.

You're quite right! I guess you could say I'm shooting myself in the foot! Mindfullness can be effective and I've used it before. Unfortunately, when I feel overwhelmed, I tend to turn to other things to not have to focus on the internal stuff like watching tv and eating at the same time. Guilty as charged!

I use several of the DBT Skills but mainly in dealing with my daughter to help me cope. But sometimes, it's still overwhelming.

Let's just say the thing that works the most is sending her to her dads so I can recharge my batteries. Thankfully, after 8 months of living with me full time, she started going to her dads again. CBT and DBT skills help me cope on a day to day basis but sometimes I do get overwhelmed and it gets very hard to use those skills. It's like I just don't care anymore. I'm too exhausted to help myself.