I have a special friend who helps many people to heal. He is not a therapist but he has a lot of knowledge and skills and he uses it with many people for free. He is at the same time their friend.

What do you think about it? At first I thought this is great because he spends his life helping people wanting nothing in return but happiness. But then when boundaries became unclear I've felt violated.

We do not have a friendship yet actually. I know a lot about him. He had extremely difficult psychiatric issues and he healed all by himself. Mostly we talk about me and my deep personal issues. It looks like I'm in therapy with him. I've been in real therapy so I know. Transference and countertransference happened. We hugged and hold hands.

We're but married and I don't have feelings for him but I feel he has some for me. I lost trust in him and told him I feel this is too much too soon and unhealthy. Like a true friend he is patient and respectful about my decision and he loves me and supports me unconditionally.

Still I feel this is not right. How should I continue in this?