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Originally Posted by Bill3
I can certainly imagine how distressed I would feel if my pastor called me into his office because he was told by another parishioner that I do not socialize properly.
As I posted previously, I agree that OP would be wise to change her approach. She would be wise to find other friends. However, I think the pastor may be exercising poor judgment in using his position to intervene in this matter. There is a great deal to be said for allowing young people to work out their own problems. Perhaps OP would be willing to speak to her pastor about these matters if she did not have the feeling that the pastor is acting at the behest of others.
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I disagree that the pastor is doing anything wrong. A pastor should investigate at the very least if a member comes to him for anything related to other members it does not mean he has to pass judgment. He could be acting as a mediator to two parties that cannot work it out face to face initially and he may even want to see the other side before even giving any thought to it.
There is no evidence here that states that the pastor isn't acting on the behalf of all parties involved and I am not sure the OP even knows.
keep in mind also that we are seeing one side of this and there could be things left out which would provide basis for why the other church member even went to the pastor.