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Originally Posted by stopdog
The first therapist I ever saw, about 30 years ago, wanted to hold me while I cried. As I cannot cry on command, it never happened plus the idea creeped me out. (They do always get caught up in crying when dealing with me - maybe they want to cry).
I don't like hand holding at all with anyone. I reserve such activity for keeping small children from running into traffic (and since I have little access to small children -it is an infrequent situation for me).
I do think it is worth trying if you think it would be useful. The only caution I can see is if you like it and the therapist decides to withdraw - that seems to cause all sorts of issues. Or if you did not like it, would you be afraid to tell the therapist to stop it.
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Thanks stopdog, that's a really useful perspective. I think I would have to tell him from the outset not to offer anything he would later withdraw as I would perceive that as a massive rejection. He's well aware of how harmful touch-related rejection was to me with T1 (when I asked him for a hug and he said no) so hopefully he would take that very seriously.
I'm pretty sure I would be able to speak up if I didn't want it any more. In fact he asked me whether he should offer it or wait for me to ask and I told him I don't want him to offer,so that leaves the control with me.