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Originally Posted by lolagrace
Sounds like a good therapist who knew to take the time to really know a client before deciding how to proceed with touch. Your T, after time, probably saw that some touch on occasion would be okay for you and introduced in that way.
I think where some therapists go wrong is providing too much touch or too much contact, etc. too soon, before they really have a good feel for a client, and then when they see it cause problems for the client have to backtrack which creates even more problems and it all snowballs into a mess.
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This. I respect how slowly we came along to the use of touch. Also the fact that I had to be able to verbally ask for what I thought I needed ( she never suggested it , she only have ideas as to how we could meet the needs I brought up) meant that issues around touch-- transference, triggers, etc --were generally addressed before I was able to clear the hurdle of actually ASKING for what I needed.. The only thing we couldn't address ahead of time is I actually sensitive to small relationship changes including in how I am touched. So we have had issues when I have felt like she touches me less and that can worry me.