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Originally Posted by TooManyDays
Yes. I've suggested this multiple times. She says she's willing to go if I need her to, but seems reluctant. I think she doesn't want to really dig into the truth. She sees my dissatisfaction as my issue to deal with, not as a problem we need to solve together. She says she's mostly content and just wants me to be more engaged and happier. But she says this is my problem and I need to make a decision about what I want. She doesn't seem interested in changing anything about herself. I think she feels it's not justified when she's perfectly happy. It's probably unfair for me to say these things since you can't get her perspective on it, but that's how the situation feels to me.
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I didn't respond until now but have been reading through your responses and others. but to this one I have to say shes right.
YOU are the one that's discontent and feeling curious about finding this "passionate love" that you think is out there, which by the way is not a permanent thing nor something that is sustainable so if you choose to seek that you're trading a long term relationship for basically a thrill ride.
anyway back to my thought, I didn't think this was about her but about your feelings and doubts and if that's still the case as you framed it previously then yes it is about you, at least at this point, I see these specific questions and issues to be things that you should look within and not to her for changing it.