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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
I disagree that the pastor is doing anything wrong. A pastor should investigate at the very least if a member comes to him for anything related to other members it does not mean he has to pass judgment. He could be acting as a mediator to two parties that cannot work it out face to face initially and he may even want to see the other side before even giving any thought to it.
There is no evidence here that states that the pastor isn't acting on the behalf of all parties involved and I am not sure the OP even knows.
keep in mind also that we are seeing one side of this and there could be things left out which would provide basis for why the other church member even went to the pastor.
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I agree. When I was actively involved in church, it was members of the leadership team who would usually do this kind of thing (it was a huge church, so this is why we had discipleship groups and, thus, group leaders). But I had my discipleship group leader speak to me a few times about my reactions to certain things when they were out of proportion for the situation. No one had to go to her--she could see it for herself as she was also a member of the group. And when there was a specific issue between myself and another member of our college group, she and another leader acted as mediators, but they both called out the other girl when it was obvious she was looking for things to be angry at me for (that's a long story, not going to go into it). I believe this is very appropriate.