You can get disabilty so there is less stress and volunteer as a why to get out of the house and meet other adults. It's less stressful, you have kids for the stress and stress affects our stability. So I'm with your doctor, get the disabilty and then evaluate the stress level. The two best volunteer jobs where, the public library, and animal shelter....both jobs I didn't have to interact with people much though I was around them. Oh, and when I was a peer advisor for a protection and advocacy under disability rights. I've volunteered many places it build self esteem while not being so stressful as a job.