What Winenot said, 1000 times over. Good post.

OP, my T is like yours---no out-of-session contact, no touch, no compliments, no self-disclosure. It has (and still does) work very well for me. Some of those things would feel nice to have (compliments) others I would NOT be okay with ever (touch). But even though I'm happy with my T, I know what it's like to get on the site, read other people's experiences, and begin to doubt. I'd ask--Should I have a closer connection? Is my T no good because he doesn't offer that? Do I even WANT a closer connection? Is something wrong with me if I don't?

I think, much like comparing cars or shoes or life, there's not much sense in comparing therapy experiences. Sure, it can be interesting to read about different experiences, and it's always good to know what else is out there, but when assessing what works, use your own standards, not others'.

If you like sexy shoes, get sexy shoes. It doesn't matter if other people prefer comfortable loafers to red spike heels.

If you want a car that gets you from A to B--have at it. Let other people have their BMW's.

If you want something out of your therapy that you aren't getting, talk to your T.

Good luck.