I'd love to get a hug from my t. We've talked about touch and she has firm boundaries in that regard so I'm okay with it. If I thought that my t hugged her other clients, and then my t wouldn't hug me, that would be a huge issue!

But knowing that some other t hugs their clients? Everyone is different. Being on this site is what encouraged me to bring it up to my T directly and I'm glad I did. It feels more resolved now.

Of course I still have that longing to be held, but I can understand why she doesn't do it and I know it's better to get that from people in real life. And I am not a naturally huggy person, I don't go around giving and receiving hugs with everyone, so when I think about it that way I can see it would make the therapist-client relationship even more fraught and emotional than it already is. (and its pretty darn emotional!)

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