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Originally Posted by DechanDawa
If you are compatible in many other ways, please see a counselor together. Maybe it will open things up. This happened to me in an otherwise good marriage. But if you don't get in sync in this area there is no point in getting married. You will only end up painfully divorced. I think it is possible to make this work but you both need to be open about discussing it and I strongly, strongly advise you to go together to counseling. Good luck.
PS And yes, you might also just not be compatible in this area. But it is a big area.
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I agree with this. It sounds like you have some of the makings of a good relationship, and some people will tell you that sex isn't everything. It's not
everything, but it's definitely a big thing. Intimacy (both emotional
and physical) what separates you from being just great friends. And if you are compatible as friends, if you are attracted to her, if you feel that you two are communicating well otherwise then, yes, I believe it is very appropriate to see a counselor about this. So many people hear "counselor" and think omg, there is something wrong. But it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with your relationship at all, it just means that you'd like the help of someone with more expertise on this subject. You are quite young and relatively inexperienced in both the relationship and sexual arenas (compared to, I'm sure, some of the people on this forum).
I feel that counseling prior to marriage could only be a benefit to you, anyway.
Good luck!