My experience is that the majority of Ts hold their boundaries pretty tightly - the way you (the OP) describe your T tends to be standard practice. If she generally work for you it may be worth thinking about why you want the other "goodies"? Is there something missing in your therapy that you feel hugs or between session contact might give you, is it about feeling cared for or special or perhaps, as you say, just feeling a bit like you're not getting enough for your money. All of those are ok reasons but it does sound like your T is competent, it's worth bearing in mind that for every person who talks about their T having looser boundaries and it being ok, there's someone else who has ended up overly dependent, enmeshed and in quite a painful place. It's not all good.