Maybe you can make some compromises with your T? My ex-T used to touch my arm or leg when I cried. I wanted that from current T too, but she only touches when we hug at the end of session. Well she wasn't good at making an empathetic facial expression and she used to never give me tissues. So she worked on those two things instead to make me feel comfortable.

Another thing we compromised on was where she sits. She used to sit on the opposite corner of the area from me. I told her that she was too far away from me. So she moved to the seat across from me. Father away than I'd like, but closer than before.

Emailing isn't something she does with most of her clients. But she knew it was something I did with ex-T, so she allowed us to try it out. So far it has worked for the both of us.

So try asking and talking to your T about these things. You never know if she'd might be willing to compromise.

And btw, I Google'd and FB'ed my T. She knew I did because I told her about all the info I found on previous T. She doesn't ask what I know. I don't think she wants to know. The only thing she has said about the matter is that after we terminate, she doesn't want me searching for her anymore. She wants me to use my transitional objects to sooth myself and move on from her.