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Old May 20, 2016, 03:32 AM
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Current t doesn't do anything for me she wouldn't do for other clients. She offers extensive outside contact to clients she believes both need it and can utilize it without it becoming a problem. She also goes overtime as she has availability if it's needed. We've had many conversations about this in the past year. I dislike the concept of being special...
A previous t continued seeing me at the clinic several weeks after she left the job. We had talked about ****** transitions with my previous 2 t's,and she was trying to allow me some control in this one. As soon as I realized I was her only client at the clinic (and she was no longer getting paid to see me), I called that session our last. It sucked, but it didn't at the same time. I have a huge fear around being seen as "special", as that was how my abuser tried to justify/explain/make desired my abuse. But t taking the effort to try to make the termination easier for me was nice of her...

I would panic if t tried to tell me I was special or do anything special for me. It has almost always come with strings attached, and i'm guessing it would in therapy as well (though not necessarily the same strings). I think I agree with stopdog when she said that a t who would try to underscore how "out of the ordinary" something is, is likely doing it more for themselves than the client.
Thanks for this!
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