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Originally Posted by tealBumblebee
. Instead she told me that i'm not obligated to make other people happy.
I did not want to hear this and felt that she was completely missing my point.
She said that sometimes the only thing you can give is empathy. .
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Being "nice" involves being genuine. It's not about being more (or less) social. The point about empathy, rings true. Years ago, my "niceness" was referred to as fake, but that was in hs, when even walking into a room with a smile was considered suspect. That was because I wasn't in touch with all of me, if that makes sense? People sometimes need to get that there's a backbone buried somewhere underneath the niceness radar. They write books about "no more nice guy/girl", i read this and thought, why would you want to try to be that ?
Not that there's not a need for genuine kindness, in this world.
I can pull off the need to escape with a touch of "shy"....
It's really a matter of being honest/genuine.
Of course your T wasn't going to tell you that all you have to do is walk into a room and smile...