This question comes out of thoughts about another thread (though at the moment I can't remember if it was the poll on attachment, or the one on getting special treatment from t).

In your experience, does having outside contact with t make or break any obsessions with t?

I think, for myself, having the extra contact is helpful. It gives me the ability to get some reality checks. When I've had t's who were unavailable, I found myself often struggling with the belief that they hated me or were mad about something I said during therapy... I know this won't matter to some people, since they don't struggle with attachment or obsessing about t.