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Originally Posted by DechanDawa
I am not sure if I know what this word means. I thought it meant if, for example, you stay married to a violent alcoholic, or something like that.
But people seem to use this word to mean other things.
What does this word mean to you?
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The children's game...Follow the Leader. Participants COPY the actions AND words of a child chosen as leader.
Co-dependents observe unknown physical experience then split into separate classifications....actions OR words then attempt to combine actions from one place and words from one place combining as "equal" expecting exact same actions and words.
Depend means controlled or determined (detour mind) by...to rely for (4) support, maintenance, help. Co means join, mutual, common.
Example: teacher =any adult authority position over child/children. child=any relationship.
Common during elementary school class..one or more "noisy child"...teacher cannot "stop" behavior so teacher switches to (2) threat tactics (detour)...stop or the whole class...punished. 1 "noisy" child (single) now 2 plus children (group) threatened. Non-acting out child/children depend on problem child's non-acting out or risk losing physical action and punishment emotional words missing physical actions.
Co-dependent "single" Teacher...blaming/shaming "single" child...forming co-dependent "social class family" on non-problem (specific location friends) child/children. More commonly known as "school" bullying.