One of the biggest problems with my ex-T was inconsistency and that is the issue here. I think sometimes boundaries need to be revisited and changed but it should be done with a lot of conversation beforehand. My ex-T. would also look over at her phone and it bothered me. My current T. puts all of her phones completely outside the room. If she forgets, she apologizes and promptly moves it to the other room.

You know my thoughts on her and I think you're heading in the right direction. I think you've had too many ruptures with her to completely trust her at this point.