Thanks guys, all your responses are much appreciated.
After my most recent session I think I've noticed that T really dives into things right away and doesn't really specifically ask me if there's anything else I want to talk about until the end, which I think is a bit strange? I'm not going to bring something up when we have almost no time. Part of me maybe feels like he thinks that he knows better what to talk about than I do and that's why? But then maybe it's all part of the process.
Also, I'm increasingly sensing that he feels like it's his role to "guide" me, as he definitely dictates the direction of the convo, etc. I'm not opposed to this; it's generally very helpful and I like not having all of the pressure being on me to guide the convo, but I'm more just wondering if it's normal? It's not like I'm un-talkative or socially anxious; I'm not shy and am very contributory in conversations, and he does ask me a lot of questions, etc, it just almost feels like he very much wants to dictate the direction of the convo.
He also lately has become more oriented towards "telling" as opposed to "suggesting" if that makes sense? Like previously if he'd assign homework or something he wanted me to work on he'd basically ask if it sounded good or if I was comfortable with it, and now he's kind of moved more towards, "I want you to do this..." and framing things less as a suggestion and more of a directive. He obviously does it politely and respectfully and not it a mean way, and I don't think it's a negative thing, I'm just curious about others' experiences. I'm thinking maybe that as I've been in therapy longer he's increasingly maybe either more comfortable being more assertive in "telling" me what to do, or starting to view himself as some type of "guide" for me, which I guess concerns me a tiny bit, but could make sense given our age difference, etc (I'm in my late-20s, he's in his early 40s)
Anyway, this is way longer than anticipated but thoughts are much appreciated!
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